When I first got engaged, one of the very first gifts my mom gave me was a copy of The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. I didn’t know then just how much that little book would shape my walk as a wife, but to this day, it’s still one of my favorites. It taught me early on that prayer isn’t just something nice to add to marriage—it’s the very lifeline that carries it.

Marriage is beautiful, but let’s be real…it is also a battleground. Scripture reminds us in Ephesians 6:12 that we don’t wrestle against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of darkness. And nowhere does that battle feel more personal than inside the covenant of marriage. The enemy would love nothing more than to divide what God has joined together. But whether you’re a wife, ex-wife, or waiting to be a wife, you are not powerless—you are called to pray.

Prayer is not your last resort, sis. Prayer is your first response. Prayer is your weapon. When you pray over your husband, your home, your marriage, AND YOURSELF, you are inviting the God of Heaven’s armies to step into the ring and fight on your behalf. And girl, there is NO battle He cannot win.

I learned this the hard way. For too long, I thought if I just said the right words or acted the right way, I could change my husband’s heart. But over time—and even now, as an ex-wife—I carry this truth with me: being a praying woman is not about controlling the outcome. It’s about surrendering it. Ezekiel 36:26 reminds us that only God can remove a heart of stone and give a heart of flesh. Sooooo…changing hearts and minds? NOT. MY. MINISTRY. I used to joke that my job was to pray for my husband and mind my business. And while I can’t say it the same way anymore, the lesson remains—the most powerful thing a woman can do is pray and not try to pick up what she’s left in God’s hands.

Recently, a dear friend reminded me of this truth. She’s walking through her own struggles, but instead of exhausting herself trying to fix what only God can heal, she’s choosing to lay it all at His feet in prayer. Watching her stirred something in me—it reminded me of my own journey and how God met me there. How He changed me, sustained me, and gave me peace even when the outcome was still uncertain. Her story reminded me that our prayers don’t just cover the ones we love the most—they transform us, too.

Sometimes those prayers are bold: “Lord, strengthen him to lead our family in Your Word.” Other times they’re barely whispers: “Jesus, help him see Your love today.” And sometimes, those prayers aren’t words at all—just tears at God’s feet, trusting He understands what language cannot carry.

The power of a praying woman isn’t found in eloquence—it’s found in persistence. Galatians 6:9 urges us not to grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we don’t give up. That harvest might be a softened heart, a restored marriage, or your own deeper intimacy with God as He sustains you through the waiting.

And here’s the truth: even if your marriage doesn’t turn out the way you hope, your prayers are never wasted. They cover your children. They invite God’s protection over your household. They plant seeds that can bear fruit for generations.

And maybe you’re reading this and you’re not married yet—but you desire to be. Sis, don’t miss this: you’re a wife before you’re a wife. The habits and patterns you’re building now are the very ones you’ll carry into marriage. If prayer isn’t part of your rhythm as a single woman, it’ll feel foreign as a wife. But if you practice prayer now—covering your future husband, your home, and even your own heart—you’ll walk into marriage already armed with your greatest weapon.

So, whether you’re married, divorced, or waiting for God to write that chapter of your story—keep praying. When it feels heavy, when it feels hopeless, when you don’t see movement—pray anyway. Because the God who hears you is faithful. And there is extraordinary power in the prayers of a woman who refuses to let go of God’s promises.

I think back to that book my mom gave me all those years ago often. Stormie Omartian may have penned the words, but God used them to plant a seed in me—a reminder that prayer is not optional; it’s essential. And even now, after divorce, I’m still learning, still praying, still discovering the power of being a woman who fights her battles on her knees.

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