As human beings, I believe we all have a natural yearning to be loved. To love someone and to have them love you back can easily  be considered one of life’s greatest achievements. However, as I get older I am constantly reminding myself of one thing: In order for me to experience this achievement, I must never forget who I am and WHOSE I am.

In the dictionary, worth is defined as “Quality that commands esteem or respect; merit…a quality that renders something desirable, useful, or valuable.” As humans, especially women, too many times we forget our personal value. We will lower our standards, relaxing our expectations of how we should be treated while slowly killing our self esteem…all in the name of “Love.”

1 Corinthians 13 says love is patient. Love is kind. It is not arrogant, rude or irritable. That man is putting you down and  intentionally harming you with his actions. That girl is killing who you are as a man with her words and dragging your name through the mud. How can you seriously call that love? That’s not love. That is someone taking advantage of you because you are choosing not to acknowledge your worth.  In order to truly experience love, you must first love yourself, know what you deserve and when things begin to head south, not be afraid to simply walk away.

That’s it. Plain and simple.Walk away. Walk away from the man who keeps putting you down…the one who keeps stringing you along giving you false hope that one day, when he’s ready to settle down, he’s going to settle down with you. Walk away from the girl who keeps using you for what you can buy her…the one who you know looks at you and doesn’t see you, but rather what’s in your bank account. Having the strength to leave a poisonous situation will allow God to step in, shift things in your favor and give you what you deserve: His best.

 So how do you gain the strength to walk away? It’s starts with knowing who you are. Not who he says you are. Not who she says you are. Who God says you are and who you believe yourself to be. When you know who you are in Christ, you won’t entertain anyone who tears you down.

 2 Corinthians 5:17 says you are a new creature in Jesus from the moment you become born again. You are a brand new person. Which means you are more precious than you can imagine. You are so valuable. You take care of your Jordans. You take care of your Louis Vuitton. Don’t you understand you are worth more? Why allow people to treat you like you are less than?

God created you for such an amazing purpose. He created you in His image. When you allow people to devalue you, you allow them to devalue God. Because of you this world will be a better place, but you have to be willing to answer His call on your life. You have to believe you are who He has called you to be and not be afraid to rid yourself of anyone or anything that dares to challenge who your God says you are. Each minute you spend entertaining a man or woman who does nothing but puts you down is a moment wasted. Time is precious and life is short. Instead of going out of your way and belittling yourself to get his or her love, try being about your Father’s business and discovering your worth while basking in His love.

Don’t be deceived by the wrapping. Walk away from the artificial sweetening that comes in the forms of empty promises, cheap and meaningless charm and ulterior motives. Release your faith. Trust God to move the wrong people out and  the right people in. Believe in your happiness and don’t settle for anything less.

Trust me….you’re worth it.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo,

 

SACHEL SAMONE