Dear Divorced Girl,

I see you.

Not the version of you everyone else sees—the one who smiles and says, “I’m okay” when they ask how you’re doing. I see the one behind closed doors. The one sitting in the quiet, staring at divorce papers that didn’t feel real until they became final. The one whispering, Where the hell do I go from here?

You didn’t plan for divorce. I didn’t either. Like you, I didn’t imagine that this would be part of my story. And yet, here you are—standing in the aftermath of a marriage that ended, wondering who you are now and what comes next.

Maybe you feel like a failure. Maybe you’re carrying shame, fear, or guilt. Maybe divorce has left you feeling like your life is in pieces, and you’re not sure how to put it back together. You’re not alone. So many women have walked through the pain of divorce, feeling exactly what you’re feeling right now.

But here’s the truth: Divorce does not define you.

It may be part of your story, but it is not the end of it. God is still writing, still working, still weaving purpose through every broken place.

Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”
All things.
Even divorce.
Even the heartbreak.
Even the lonely nights.
Even the moments when you question your worth and your identity.

You are still His girl. Still chosen. Still called. Still wildly loved.

So what do you do now, freshly divorced and feeling unsure?
You breathe.
You take the next right step.
You let yourself feel what you need to feel—grief, anger, confusion, even relief.
You give yourself grace, because healing after divorce is not linear. It’s holy. It’s layered. It’s personal.

And you trust that even when the picture of your life looks nothing like you hoped, the One who holds the pen is still good.

I promise you sis—You will laugh again.
You will feel whole again.
You will rediscover the woman God created you to be—stronger, wiser, and full of depth.

So hold on, divorced girl. This isn’t the end—it’s a beginning you never asked for, but one God can use in ways you can’t yet see.

The Author of your story is still writing. And spoiler alert: you win in the end.

With you in this,